Step around the poop, if you can

My poor bro, just tryin to make a living! He thought he was being cool
Teaching in a Barrio neighborhood high school, he joked around with some of the Mexican students-he was trying to be funny as he relayed the story of how he almost hit an "Illegal alien"...Well, I guess one of his students happens to be a fan of Sigourney Weaver because she said to my bro,quickly "I'm not an alien-Mee-ster" and referred to him as "racist" then ran to the mexican administrators and told those idiots there that "Mee-ster" was a racist and of course, brain surgeons that they are, supported her not him. HELLLLLLOOOOOOO pulizer prize winner there. These are the kids that roam the earth.Worse, these are the adults that roam the earth Yikes-are we in mucho trouble.

Human Error
I'm a firm believer in "human error." It's one of the building blocks of civilization as we know it. Without it, things might run smoothly with the exception of natural disasters and the occasional pet stain. And how boring would that be. You think I'm kidding, but I'm not.
What's more, good things come out of mistakes. Chocolate chip cookies. The Post-It Note. And hard-won, first-hand experience to name just a few.

St. Louis Radio Host Is Fired for Uttering Racial Epithet While Praising Rice
03-22-2006 3:24 PM
By CHERYL WITTENAUER, Associated Press Writer

ST. LOUIS -- A St. Louis radio station quickly fired a talk show host for uttering a racial epithet as he talked about Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice on his morning show Wednesday.

Dave Lenihan apologized on the air immediately after making what he said was a slip of the tongue. KTRS president and general manager Tim Dorsey agreed the remark was accidental but said it was nonetheless "unacceptable, reprehensible and unforgivable."

Lenihan had been heaping praise on Rice, who has frequently said she aspires to run the NFL one day but has more recently ruled out seeking to replace retiring Commissioner Paul Tagliabue.

"She's been chancellor of Stanford," Lenihan said on the air. "She's got the patent resume of somebody that has serious skill. She loves football. She's African-American, which would kind of be a big coon. A big coon. Oh my God. I am totally, totally, totally, totally, totally sorry for that."

He said he had meant to say "coup" instead of the racial slur.

KTRS listeners soon began calling the station to complain. Twenty minutes after the utterance, Dorsey went on the air to apologize to Rice and KTRS listeners.

"There can be no excuse for what was said," Dorsey said. "Dave Lenihan has been let go. ... There is enough hate. We certainly are not going to fan those flames."

NAACP chapter president Harold Crumpton commended Dorsey for his swift action.

Reached at home, Lenihan said he was still trying to figure out what happened and was drafting a letter of apology to Rice. He said he never uses the slur he uttered and thinks Rice is "a fantastic woman."

Lenihan, formerly a drive-time host at WGNU radio in St. Louis, had been at KTRS for less than two weeks.

"It was my dream job," he said. "Ratings were going well. It kind of stinks."

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Source: American Psychological Society
December 14, 2004

Slip Of The Tongue:
Word Substitution Mistakes Have More To Do With
Why is it that we can look at something, know what it is and still call a rose by a different name? Breaking from conventional wisdom, new research suggests that it isn't a rushed pace or distraction that makes us slip up, but rather a hiccup in how we plan what we're going to say that messes things up.

People usually look at things before they name them. For instance, before they say "a hammer," they look at the hammer for a second. But what about when they see a hammer and unintentionally call it "an axe"? Zenzi M. Griffin, Georgia Institute of Technology, assumed people made the mistake when they didn't look at the hammer long enough, which could reflect rushed word preparation, forgetting to check the name they had mentally prepared against the object, or paying too much attention to other objects.

But Griffin discovered that people who say "axe" when they mean "hammer" look at the hammer just as long as they do when they say "hammer." However, they look at the hammer longer after they call it "an axe," apparently as they prepare to correct their mistake. In her study, "The Eyes Are Right When the Mouth Is Wrong," Griffin concluded that, as with a gesture, a person's gaze may accurately reflect what he intends, even if his words do not. The study will be published in the December issue of Psychological Science, a journal of the American Psychological Society.

Griffin had participants name two or three line-drawn objects or describe the actions in line-drawn scenes and measured their eye movements while they spoke. She identified 41 full or partial mistakes, indicated by participants saying something like "oops," or "no," or interrupting what they were saying.

Results showed that whether they identified the items correctly or incorrectly, the amount of time participants spent looking at the drawings beforehand was almost the same. This went against Griffin's prediction that people tend to misname objects because they don't look at them long enough.

These results have three implications: 1) word-substitution mistakes are more indicative of problems in planning speech than problems in thought or attention; 2) speech errors are not caused by a person rushing through word preparation or omitting a sub-process; and 3) looking at an object is not a guarantee that the person will say it correctly.

My bro has a blog of his own(new way to train.blogspot.com) and todays entry was all about a Korean vs Japan baseball game that he and a friend went to the other night. He writes:
"i seriously had the best hot dog i've had in a while, i don't even remember what they call it at anaheim stadium but it costs like 50 bucks but they add chili and kraut so it was good."
Heres a hint,they called it.... Rover when it was alive, you dork
mmm,schnauzer

In Lebanon , men are legally allowed to have sex with animals, but the
animals must be female. Having sexual relations with a male animal is
punishable by death.

(Like THAT makes sense.)

In Bahrain, a male doctor may legally examine a woman's genitals, but is
prohibited from looking directly at them during the examination. He may
only see their reflection in a mirror.

(Do they look different reversed?)

Muslims are banned from looking at the genitals of a corpse. This also
applies to undertakers. The sex organs of the deceased must be covered
with a brick or piece of wood at all times.

(A brick??)

The penalty for masturbation in Indonesia is decapitation.

(Much worse than "going blind!")

There are men in Guam whose full-time job is to travel the countryside
and deflower young virgins, who pay them for the privilege of having sex
for the first time Reason: under Guam law, it is expressly forbidden for virgins
to marry.

(Let's just think for a minute; is there any job anywhere else in the
world that even comes close to this?)

In Hong Kong, a betrayed wife is legally allowed to kill her adulterous
husband, but may only do so with her bare hands. The husband's illicit
lover, on the other hand, may be killed in any manner desired.

(Ah! Justice!)

Topless saleswomen are legal in Liverpool, England - but only in
tropical fish stores.

(But, of course!)

In Cali, Colombia, a woman may only have sex with her husband, and the
first time this happens, her mother must be in the room to witness the
act.

(Makes one shudder at the thought.)

In Santa Cruz, Bolivia, it is illegal for a man to have sex with a
woman and her daughter at the same time.

(I presume this was a big enough problem that they had to pass this
law.)

In Maryland, it is illegal to sell condoms from vending machines with
one exception: Prophylactics may be dispensed from a vending machine only
"in places where alcoholic beverages are sold for consumption on the
premises."

(Is this a great country or what? Well, probably not as great as Guam!)

Banging your head against a wall uses 150 calories an hour.

(Who volunteers for this stuff?)

Humans and dolphins are the only species that have sex for pleasure.

(Is that why Flipper was always smiling?)

The ant can lift 50 times its own weight, can pull 30 times its own
weight and always falls over on its right side when intoxicated.

(From drinking little bottles of ?)
(Did the government pay for this research??)
Butterflies taste with their feet.

(Ah, geez.)

An ostrich's eye is bigger than its brain.

(I know some people like this.)

Starfish don't have brains.

(I know some people like that, too.)

And, the best for last

Turtles can breathe through their butts.

I think I spoke of the wild kingdom that permeats the area where I live..My girlfriend just told me of a senario that happened to her when she was jogging in Orange county. There is a lot of empty/nature terrain out this way, bikepaths, walking paths, etc. well, my idiot friend decided to go running around 8 pm one summer evening, a few years ago down a desolate back road and was cornered by a pack of coyotes. I mean 6 or 7 of these hungry "gang members"-no doubt smoking ciggys and owners of coffee mugs with "Coyote" printed on the front of them cornered her next to a tree. Next thing my friend did was bolt up the tree like she was on fire.
After about 5 minutes of my friend still in the tree and the cute little puppy dogs still on the ground waiting for the "brisket" to come down-she decided the only way she was going to get out of this alive was to get a weapon to defend herself with.
(Wheres an "Acme" bomb when you need one)
She broke off a branch from the tree and struck one of the pack with it pretty hard (he/she let out a yelp)and backed up, which infuriated one of the other gang. He went for her and she remembered she carries a knife with her she pulled the knife on him/her and they all backed off and ran away. ("I'll stick you,man")

She was warning me to carry a big can of pepper spray with me over here. How about if I not jog in the wilderness at night...maybe that would help



Anyway, I remain, sooooo damn sad, and about alot of things, but I have discussed the one big reason in previous posts. I tried to care about another human and I got punched for my trouble and keep getting punched. I will get over it in time. Im trying really.

Yo mama is so old

Yo mama so old I told her to act her own age, and she died.

Yo mama so old her social security number is 1!

Yo mama so old that when she was in school there was no history class.

Yo mama so old she has a picture of Moses in her yearbook.

Yo mama so old her birth certificate says expired on it.

Yo mama so old she knew Burger King while he was still a prince.

Yo mama so old she was a waitress at the Last Supper.

Yo mama so old she ran track with dinosaurs.

Yo mama so old her birth certificate is in Roman numerals.

Tomorrow is my 46th year of infamy

I have sitting on my desk, framed, a pic of me when I was 2, dressed in a wrinkled gingam dress, innocently holding a ball and smiling, another pic of me at about 3 months old,propped up by a mysterious hand-a few strands of hair on my head,looking unconcerned and a pic of me at 45 taken at the employee Christmas party

I dont see the familiarities in my face thru out the years. Lets see, I was thinner then, but I have more hair now.
Im still as single as I was then.

Well,I will try to do something different tomorrow, when you have to plan your own birthday fun and will spend it by yourself-you tend to not be motivated, Guess I feel I have to though. Hey,I should care-especially if no ones else does. Maybe a drink after work? So here's to me.

The Art and Science of Forgiveness
Frederic Luskin, Ph.D.

Nine Steps to Forgiveness
The Four Stages of Forgiveness
What is Forgiveness?

Know exactly how you feel about what happened and be able to articulate what about the situation is not OK. Then, tell a couple of trusted people about your experience.


Make a commitment to yourself to do what you have to do to feel better. Forgiveness is for you and not for anyone else. No one else even has to know about your decision.


Understand your goal. Forgiveness does not necessarily mean reconciliation with the person that upset you, or condoning of their action. What you are after is to find peace. Forgiveness can be defined as the "peace and understanding that come from blaming that which has hurt you less, taking the life experience less personally, and changing your grievance story."


Get the right perspective on what is happening. Recognize that your primary distress is coming from the hurt feelings, thoughts and physical upset you are suffering now, not what offended you or hurt you two minutes - or ten years -ago.


At the moment you feel upset practice the a simple stress management technique to soothe your body's flight or fight response.


Give up expecting things from other people, or your life, that they do not choose to give you. Recognize the "unenforceable rules" you have for your health or how you or other people must behave. Remind yourself that you can hope for health, love, friendship and prosperity and work hard to get them. However, you will suffer when you demand these things occur when you do not have the power to make them happen.


Put your energy into looking for another way to get your positive goals met than through the experience that has hurt you. I call this step finding your positive intention. Instead of mentally replaying your hurt seek out new ways to get what you want.


Remember that a life well lived is your best revenge. Instead of focusing on your wounded feelings, and thereby giving the person who caused you pain power over you, learn to look for the love, beauty and kindness around you.


Amend your grievance story to remind you of the heroic choice to forgive.


The Four Stages of Forgiveness

Making the choice to forgive can be a liberating practice. One that if practiced proactively can lead to a life filled with exquisite experiences. It is imperative to remember that forgiveness is only possible because we have the ability to make choices. We have the choice to forgive or not to forgive and no one can force us to do either. If we want to forgive someone no one can stop us no matter how poorly the offender may have acted. This ability to forgive can be seen as an indication of the control we have over our lives. It can be helpful to reflect upon and feel the respect afforded us to be able to make choices that can have such profound implications.

It is important to remember that the option to forgive implies that we had discretion as to whether or not we took offense in the first place. While forgiving may be a difficult enough choice for many of us, imagine how our lives would be if we rarely or never used our power of choice to take offense. Since we have choice, wouldn't it make sense to limit the amount of times we are hurt or offended so that the need to forgive rarely if ever arises? The ability to live life without taking offense, without giving blame to the offender when hurt, and by offering compassionate understanding are choices that offer a life of great peace.

The ability to experience the power of forgiveness proceeds along four steps or stages. At step one you are filled with self justified anger. At some point in your life you have been wounded and you are mad at and/or hurt by the person you feel wronged you. You blame the person committing the wrong for how you are feeling. It is their action and not your choice of response that you determine to be the cause of your distress. You have forgotten that you have choices as to how you can react, or you are so wounded that you are convinced that it would not be right to forgive the offense. At this stage there is usually both active and submerged anger as well as a great deal of pain.

The second step towards forgiveness emerges when after feeling upset with someone for a while you realize that the hurt and anger do not feel good to you. It may be impacting your emotional balance and/or physical health. Or you wish to repair the damage to the relationship. So you take steps to forgive. You may begin to see the problem from the other person's point of view or you may simply decide to let the problem go. In either case, after an extended period of time, you are no longer aggrieved and have forgiven the person with whom you were angry. This process of forgiveness can be applied to anger at oneself, another person or to life in general.

The third stage of forgiveness comes after you have seen the results of forgiveness in action and you choose to let go of a new interpersonal grievance fairly quickly. In this stage you choose to feel the hurt for a shorter period of time, and then work to either repair the relationship or let go of seeing the situation as a problem. In either case you decide to forgive because you have had some practice with it and see the clear benefit in your life. This could emerge in as simple a situation as being cut off by another car on the expressway or in a complex situation like an affair in a marriage. At this stage of forgiveness you are aware that the length of time you experience a situation as a grievance is primarily up to you.

The fourth stage of forgiveness involves the proactive choice to rarely if ever take offense in the first place. This means you are prepared to forgive in advance of a specific trigger. This stage often emerges at the same time as some or all of the following thoughts:

I don't want to waste my precious life in the discomfort caused by anger or hurt so I will decide to feel differently. I am able to forgive myself, forgive others, forgive life, and forgive God.


I know how it hurts when people don't forgive me. I do not want to hurt other people by my actions so I will perceive the problem in a way that I can either deal with it or let it go.


Life is filled with incredible beauty and wonder and I am missing these experiences if I am stuck in the remembrance of old hurts or disappointments. I forgive myself for getting sidetracked.


People do the best they can and if they err the best way to help them is by offering understanding. The first step in this process is to forgive whatever constituted the specific offense.


Everyone, including myself operates primarily out of self-interest. I must expect that some times I, in my self-interest, will be annoyed by some one else's expression of their self-interest. If I can understand that this is an ordinary part of life, what is there to be upset about? If I understand that self-interest is my guiding principle, how can I not offer forgiveness to everyone, including myself for behaving that way?


These four steps to forgiveness will not be followed in the same way by all people and in all relationships. There are some people for whom we feel such love that we are almost always at stage four: open hearted and ready to forgive. There are other people for whom we feel so egregiously hurt and our well of good will for them is so dry that we can spend years at stage one. What is critical to keep in mind is the role of personal choice and the need to exercise that choice to forgive so that we can bring peace and healing into our relationships and to ourselves.

What is Forgiveness?

Forgiveness is the moment to moment experience of peace and understanding that occurs when an injured party's suffering is reduced as they transform their grievance against an offending party. This transformation takes place through learning to take less personal offense, attribute less blame to the offender and, by greater understanding, see the personal and interpersonal harm that occurs as the natural consequence of unresolved anger and hurt.

Forgiveness is Not the Same As:

Forgetting
Pardon
Reconciliation
Condoning
Justice

Three Components in Creating an Interpersonal Grievance:
Take something too personally.
Blame the offender for how you feel.
Create a grievance story that reflects helplessness.

Core Components of Forgiveness:
View the offense less personally.
Take responsibility for your own emotional experience.
Change the story to reflect the heroic choice to grow and prosper.

I want to give my view of value

When one values something important, one treats that valuable item with care, If not,something could happen to that important thing of value and it could be lost,harmed or broken. If you left your valuable out in the rain, you may not have it for long-or it may not look the same, it would be the same item on the inside of all the rust and tarnish due to your lack of care but if you truly value something why not care for it in the first place?